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Let’s Talk About Sex

Wednesday, July 18, 2018

This weekend I posted the details of a sexual conversation that my husband and I had and true to form someone commented that some things are not for FB.

I have a few questions in response to this...

1. How do we determine what’s appropriate and what’s not appropriate for social media and

2. Why does talking publicly about sex in a non-perverted manner make us uncomfortable?

Those questions are for your own introspection. The next question is an answer to the question many of you have on your mind but aren’t brave enough to ask out loud.

Why would I post publicly something as intimate as a sexual conversation with my husband?

The answer is simple.

Somewhere along the road sex became dirty. Maybe it’s because we took something so powerful and we threw it around all over the place like it was worthless. We lost respect for its power and we created a bad stigma for it.

This is quite unfortunate because there are many Christian women who are struggling to properly please their husbands because society has made them feel dirty or sinful for being sexy.

I will never post a picture in my lingerie because obviously, that’s taking it too far but I posted for the sole purpose of subtly letting my sisters in Christ know that once you have gone before God and said those vows, then you have free reign to be as sexual as you desire with your husband.

Christian marriages are not doing much better than secular marriages and our children are watching. They are seeing you living a boring life, void of any spice.

There is nothing better than having your husband love all of you, stretch marks and cellulite included. When your children watch their father embrace their mother even after she has lost her billboard worthy body, it says to them that they are more than their physical appearance. It says to them that a Godly man will continue to be in awe of them long after the youthful “perfections.”

I hear stories of couples where the sex life is suffering because the woman is embarrassed to get naked. Shame has crept in. On the flip side, I have heard of men that are unable to look at their wives that way yet they are addicted to porn. They are incapable because their wives are somehow only seen as the angelic woman that raises his kids. Again, this is because he has associated being sexy, with being bad or sinful.

So yes, I share my intimate moments on social media because I made a promise to God to use my life to glorify Him and if I am led to share something, then I share and trust that there is someone He needed to reach through me.

Wishing all the married couples out there a spice-filled week.


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